12 Ways To Give Your Self-Love A Radical Boost
The Value Of Knowing Who You Are, Is Invaluable!
It has been a great journey to get to know this person who stares back at me in the mirror.
At first she was a scared 5 year old little girl who flew thousands of miles to another country and lived with, not so nice relatives that made her feel stupid and alone. They made fun of her, tried to break her spirit and even tortured her by saying things like, “you won’t amount to anything", you’re stupid.” She was the 5 year old little girl who had her dolls mutated by the same people that she had to live with.
Then she was an 8 year old girl who was sexual molested for 4 years by a friend of the family , who had to prove to “that” side of the family that it had happen.
Then she was the woman who got out of a verbally abusive relationship and who had to rebuild herself up slowly.
It took me 34 years to know who I was.
It took me 34 years to know that my life had a purpose.
It took me 34 years to know that I was worth that purpose.
The value of knowing who YOU are is INVALUABLE.
And it all starts with self-love.
For me I got to a point in my life when I had to start loving myself for who I was and for the things that I went through. I had to forgive myself. Forgive myself for not speaking up, for letting people treat me horribly, for not viewing myself as nothing but love. For not having compassion for my soul. I had to forgive that perfect vision that I thought I had to be. I had to forgive myself for being so critical of everything that I did.
The value of loving YOURSELF is absolutely everything.
We’ve all been there – we’ve all had the days where we’re super down on ourselves. Sometimes those little nagging voices pop in. There are things that have helped me to shift my negative conversations to myself so that I can feel present in my body. Full of love for myself and for others.
Cuz girl you know that you are a light that shines brighter than a billion stars.
So how do you get to the part of knowing how invaluable you are? Here are some of my favorite things that I did when I started to shift my beliefs around. I remember being in the bathroom crying hysterically asking why me and then I started to imagine a life that was not filled with why me’s but one that was filled with why not me.
The following list is from the amazing Louise Hay the goddess of Mirror Work.
1. Stop All Criticism
Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.
3. Don’t Scare Yourself
Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It's a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure, and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.
4. Be Gentle and Kind and Patient
Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.
5. Be Kind to Your Mind
Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don't hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.
6. Praise Yourself
Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
7. Support Yourself
Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.
8. Be Loving to Your Negatives
Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So lovingly release the old negative patterns.
9. Take Care of Your Body
Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need in order to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise do you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.
10. Do Mirror Work
Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself while looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents while looking into the mirror. Forgive them, too. At least once a day, say, I love you, I really love you!
11. Love Yourself . . . Do It Now
Don't wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or find the new relationship. Begin now—and do the best you can.
12. Have Fun
Remember the things that gave you joy as a child. Incorporate them into your life now. Find a way to have fun with everything you do. Let yourself express the joy of living. Smile. Laugh. Rejoice, and the Universe rejoices with you!